A Dater's Life

Wednesday, November 29, 2006

You are now entering....The Twilight Zone

The Twilight Zone of dating, that is. Follow this bizarre chain of events if you can:

Sunday: Drinks and Appetizers with Bachelor #1

Monday: Follow-up phone call AND e-mail from Bachelor #1 to inform me he had a good time on our date

Wednesday: E-mail asking me out for Friday night

Ladies. Gentlemen. I believe THIS is the way things are supposed to be.


Monday, November 27, 2006

Signs of a good first date

(1) Twenty minutes in, you start talking about your animals and simultaneously whip out your cell phones to obsessively share your hordes of pictures of your animal families;

(2) You get so excited talking about your love of all-things avocado that you leave the first restaurant to walk to a second restaurant to eat huge bowls of guacamole (and drink tequila*);

(3) Big hug and sweet cheek kisses goodnight;

(4) By 11 a.m. the following morning, he's already e-mailed to talk about scheduling the second date!

*Note: It is best to not drink tequila after consuming red wine, however, as you will wake up in the middle of the night and hurl! Or at least I did! Not that this means anything.


Sunday, November 26, 2006

It's about time

Since this IS a dater's blog, I figure that it's about time for me to get some dates. So in six hours, I will do just that. (Er, not get a date....go on a date.)

Will report back either with a good story or a horrifying story, but a story, nonetheless.

Saturday, November 18, 2006


What is it about dating that causes otherwise sane and rational individuals to turn into quivering masses of insecurity, spending hours on end deconstructing one late phone call or one cancelled date or one confusing e-mail?

This isn't a criticism, for I've been there just as many times as the next gal (heck, or even guy). It's more an observation and perhaps one of the primary reasons why I fled from the dating world for the past few months.

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Tuesday, November 14, 2006

The problem with on-line dating

Well, one of many. The whole concept just utterly confuses me.

For example:

This guy e-mails me. I read his profile. He seems interesting. I e-mail him back. A few days pass. He e-mails me again. This time I wait a few days and e-mail him back. Five days later....nothing.*

Another example:

This guy hotlists me. I read his profile. He seems interesting. I send him a "wink" for encouragement. A week and a half later....nothing.

Like I said, the whole thing is utterly baffling to me. Yeah, I'm sure these guys are e-mailing a dozen women at a time, but even so...the games are exhausting. No, it's not exhausting; it's more annoying. I've tried on-line dating off-and-on for three years now, and it never seems to work for me.

*note: I realize I'll hear from him again eventually. This e-mail cycle will continue for weeks, perhaps even months, before we finally decide to meet up or I get bored with the cycle. You know, whichever comes first.

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Thursday, November 09, 2006

A moment in the single girl's life

Two friends and I had plans to go to the opera. One asks, "Can I bring my boyfriend?" I say, "Why not?" The other asks, "The guy I'm dating wants to go."

So now it's me and two couples instead of me and my two friends. Loads of fun.