A Dater's Life

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Bicycles, fish, or insanity?

Choose One:

A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.--attributed to Gloria Steinem

Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs To Know About Catching A Man. --by
Steve Nakamoto

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.--Albert Einstein

After being flaked out on twice in the last two weeks, I'm back in the saddle again. Tomorrow's "date" is officially scheduled. Bachelor #490093 provided two options of time/place for me to choose from. He's confirmed with me and provided me with directions.

Would it be too cynical of me to take bets on whether or not this "date" will actually take place?

14 Comments:

At 1:33 AM, Blogger Cookie said...

As understandable as it is to become somewhat cynical how would you feel if the other person went on a date with you with that attitude? I keep believing in fairy tales until my dying day, maybe I'm naive like that ;-) Have a fun date!

 
At 9:50 AM, Blogger TessaJ said...

Well, honestly I think I would understand. I hear tales from men that it's just as rough out there for them as it is for women! But I agree that a person shouldn't be dating if they aren't at least relatively excited about it.

(But the way, I am excited about my date tonight!)

But I'm actually a pretty optimistic person. It's just gotten hard as in the last couple of months I've had about 10 dates scheduled or tentatively scheduled, but no dates have actually taken place!

 
At 10:06 AM, Blogger TessaJ said...

Okay, I exaggerated. I think it's only been about 5 dates scheduled ;)

 
At 10:29 AM, Blogger Cookie said...

can't wait to hear about the date. have fun!!

 
At 11:36 AM, Blogger TessaJ said...

Thanks. This guy seems very sweet, plus he's a dog person (always a good thing in my world). It really is a tough thing, staying positive in such a crazy world. I have a couple of special SATC episodes that I often watch while I'm getting ready ;)

 
At 9:07 AM, Blogger Jules said...

So how did the date go?

 
At 10:29 AM, Blogger TessaJ said...

It was fine. We had a nice chat over drinks. I'm not really sure we sparked, or at least I'm not really sure I sparked with him. But I could go out with him again.

Of course, afterward, when I met my girlfriends for dinner, I had a GREAT time! What would we do without our girls?

 
At 7:08 AM, Anonymous SoCo said...

This is the girl that had the alleged date on your other post the other night...
Well, another internet date down. Did you make plans for the second? I had a similar date last night for drinks. He was nice. It was pleasant. I could tell he liked me. He wasn't totally attractive. But I'm not real sure about it. I would go out again but I usually start to worry about "well ok lets give this a chance even though i feel meh already." then the dates a pleasnat enough to lead to 3 or 4 more dates. Then what do you do??? If it's not working? I just always feel so bad.

 
At 9:16 AM, Blogger TessaJ said...

Yeah, I worry about that too. If we had a decent time, I figure it's worth giving it another chance. But then if I stay on the fence about things, it gets tricky how to end them. But I'm pretty good at writing the letdown e-mail as I've been so poorly dumped in the past that I go out of my way to ends things with kindness.

Anyhoo, in this case, I didn't hear from the guy, and I certainly wasn't going to follow up after our date, so it sounds like a mutual non-match.

 
At 2:54 PM, Blogger Karen said...

I try to pretend I'm not a hopeless romantic, but deep down I know I am. Having confidence in yourself, patience for the process, a little bit of insanity and a belief in romacnce seems to keep us all going!

 
At 4:07 AM, Blogger Sarah said...

i;m just as cynical at the moment. In fact i've given up on men altogether. And when I'm not morbidly depressed about dying alone surrounded by barnyard animals i do find not worrying about datng anymore a tiny little bit liberating.

 
At 6:59 AM, Blogger Ocean Escape said...

Hi

I thought I was the only one having a tough time with internet dating until I read your blog. Don't give up - there's someone out there for everyone. At least, that's what I keep trying to convince myself!

Best wishes

Keith

 
At 5:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why dont you write anymore? I want to know what happened with the date!, as you I am looking for love and I sometimes I think my works are in vain.

 
At 1:32 PM, Blogger TessaJ said...

I haven't been writing because nothing's been happening! (Never heard from this guy again -- shrug.)

 

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